By Mahatma DasRecently an unmarried female devotee told me that a man was interested in getting to know her, and in their discussions he mentioned that 'the husband is the guru.' She asked me for guidance on the subject. This Illumination is what I wrote to clarify for her (and him) what it means for a husband to be a guru - and what it doesn't mean; for misunderstanding what this means will be the cause of an unhappy marriage. Even though Prabhupada writes that a failed marriage is usually the woman's fault, if a woman has a good husband, she will stay loyal. As I often tell men, "Don't make it difficult for your spouse to be a good wife."